Its okay to filter out people from life

Dear reader,

Today's topic may sound a bit harsh, but I believe it's important to engage in an uncomfortable conversation.

Since my school days, I have identified as an ambivert and had a selected group of friends. I used to communicate with people in a friendly manner, but many failed to grasp the distinction between mere conversation and forming a genuine connection.

Life took its course, and I relocated to Pune. I began making new friends, creating new memories, acquiring roommates, and inevitably losing touch with some of my school friends. Following that, I landed a job and developed relationships with colleagues, eventually losing contact with my college friends. I moved to Goa, then Delhi, back to Pune, changed jobs, returned to Goa, and ultimately back to Pune. Throughout this journey, I encountered numerous individuals, befriended some, and unfortunately lost touch with many good people. Surprisingly, I never deliberately removed anyone from my life – not yet.

I never thought I would contemplate cutting people out of my life, but life is unpredictable. Recently, I came to the realization that, regardless of a person's significance to you or the duration of your acquaintance, it's crucial to establish boundaries. You must discern what is toxic and normal for you. You need not endure negativity simply because you have known someone for a while.

From my experiences, I've learned that friendship should not be a burden. You cannot compel people to stay, and likewise, you shouldn't pressure yourself to remain with them, particularly when you are aware of what is positive and negative for your well-being. I am not asserting that everyone must be perfect, but I am addressing those who have recognized the need to detach from negative influences, regardless of anything. If you have gone through this process, I would appreciate hearing how you managed it.

I also want to reach out to those who desire to sever ties but have struggled due to love and genuine intentions. Trust your judgment about what is best for you. These are just some thoughts that have been occupying my mind in recent days, as I grapple with the challenge of filtering people in my life.